i'm in the middle of reading "love and respect" by dr. emerson eggerichs. it's been really good so far, and i've already found helpful things to apply in our marriage. so i just thought i'd pass it on. you're welcome to borrow our copy when we're done. dr. eggerichs and his wife also do conferences around the united states. here is their website: http://www.loveandrespect.com/index.php.